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Differences and debates
What shall you do when differences occur?
ان ربك يقضي بينهم يوم القيامة فيما كانوا فيه يختلفون
"Obey Allah and obey His Messenger and do not argue so fail and your power will depart..."
So its quite clear that disagreeing and arguing are things we should all avoid. How far are we away from the Quran?
It was reported in Bukhari that Umar ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) heard a man reciting the Quran in a manner which he was unfamiliar. So he took the man to the Prophet (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) and complained about what he had heard. The Prophet (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) warned him that other nations were destroyed and differences was the crux of their destruction.
There was many differences of opinion in fiqh of the companions. We often cite them as a community that agreed on everything but the fact is that they disagreed but still respected each other.
Uneducated Muslims giving their own opinions.
Pushing opinions down peoples throats until they vomit the colours of the argument.
Defending one's teacher or defending ones group.
Defending or explaining things to those who have no terms of reference.
Defending optional acts.
Debating matters of belief (aquida) and fiqh (jurisprudence) - without being aware of difference of opinion of other schools and even one's own school.
Egos - the unmovable object meets the unstoppable force on unsocial media.
During a heated discussion opposite views are put across. Neither wants to budge or be fair or see the other persons point of view. So there we have two stubborn sets of people bashing heads like a pair of bulls locking heads. Swearing and sins inevitably occur because that is a result of disrespect. Lastly, physical altercations occur and I know this is quite difficult to stomach. In the end it causes much more friction that it solves and even seeking clarification on a matter does not work out. The question is often innocent but its received with such hostility that it causes a lot of harm. Why not just say I do not know? I have heard of stories of people threatening people with guns! You have lost it if disagreements are going to be solved with that! Why are we so bothered about what we are not supposed to do and not bothered at all about what we are commanded to do?
Imam Malik (may Allah show him mercy) said saying I do not know is the shield of the scholar. So what about the average Muslim who has very little if any knowledge. Why does he think he was better than someone who was one of righteous early community! Yet, the professional facebook augmentative person never admits that he does not know!
The last great Ottoman Caliph Abdul Hamid the second said, "I never fear a learning man in day of the week. I only wish to avoid those fools who consider themselves scholars after reading one passage of the Quran!"
The people who disagree are those without any formal training or learning. Except group slogans, repeating nonsense of their favorite speaker and so forth.
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We need to know that there will always be disagreements. This is the normal course of things but what we should do is not allow that to divide us. Rather, we should respect the difference of opinion of the other side even though we disagree. We agree to disagree and leave the rest of the matter. How many disagree for the sake of our own egos and rarely is it a noble purpose.
There is often more than not there is more than one position on many matters. Yet, the main points of the religion are agreed upon and minority opinions means nothing when the majority agree. You should follow the majority opinion of the schools of fiqh and aquida.
We leave the rest alone and it does not concern us. Many scholars have said not to read anything written in the last two hundred and even five hundred years! Why? The majority disagreements, that are apparent in this time, are mentioned in the books of the last few hundred years. So avoid them at all costs and allow people to disagree and you relax by doing something rewardable. In essence, there is no reward in an average person arguing.
This is when two people from opposite groups argue. Both are committing sins and could commit acts of disbelief without being aware. Hence the sin!
This is a sadly frequent sight. When someone argues with a scholar and he is not willing to accept the scholars opinion. Partly because he does not understand it and so he rejects.
When a scholar tries to explain something to an average person but fails and it leads to an argument. Some scholars give compile information that cannot be grasped easily.
This is when big personalities clash and their students go to war. Or when big egos are on TV and need their ego massaged by being 'right.' There is no good in being humble to such people. Bad character is not sunnah.
Well, we need to study the religion because ignorance is the main cause of disagreement. The more knowledge one has the less you argue. It is as simple as that. I can remember my own journey as a student. We used to argue on a daily basis but after a few years all those disagreements disappeared. Until we all sat in silence. So study your schools until you have no doubts. This will cure your own doubts. There will always be people who disagree but allow space for others to disagree. Rather than shove your opinion down their throats. Explain the correct one and leave it on the table, for them to take or leave.
When someone disagrees with you then do not allow it to cause discord. Most arguments become defensive because of feeling slighted and thus they do not listen to advice. Ruining their good actions like putting filth into clean water.
So apologise for your wrong doing and make peace. Avoid things that break ties from people. Know that if you disagree with a scholar then do it in manner that your bad manners does not reach them and do not backbite. If you do it to their face, backbite or slander them. Know that you have committed sin greater than what you misunderstood. They are a scholar and you are not, therefore he is more likely to be right than someone who has no studied: i.e. you! So give him the benefit of the doubt and look into the matter that you disagree with. Or ask them about it. But most people prefer to slander scholars on websites. Know, anyone who does this needs to stop using the internet. Backbiting and slandering a scholar is like eating poison but how people are used to drinking poison in this time! Backbiting is like eating decaying flesh and no wonder people are putting on weight! Know that if you slander someone in public like facebook then you will have to repent on facebook. You cannot do it in the messages section.
Remember, when you insult a speaker that someone respects, it causes them to disrespect you and they do not lose respect to the speaker. Especially, when they like the personality who you are speaking against.
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